You know those days.. weeks? months? Those times you can’t believe you still have enough energy to even eat. When we really think about it, the question “How they are doing?” usually ends with busy. Nowadays more than ever, if you aren’t busy, then your way of living is questionable. You must have a shit-ton of loans to pay off, jobs, a family, or rather busy trying to create a family. How did that happen? When did we want to be so busy all the time? And to the point, that should we have a little free time, we become bored?
I must say that I found myself about to break last week. I have this very bad tendency of sacrificing sleep above anything else. I know I can function (enough for what I need) on four to six hours for a few days. Then I crashed. There was also a sense of guilt. How can I neglect my passions! Whether it’s writing this blog or thinking of new ideas and programs, I love to spend any free time I had doing it. For myself, it’s not just a hobby, but a bigger part of my life. I didn’t remember saying everything else was more important. This is when I stepped back and remembered, “I got this.” This is what I want.
So where do we draw the line in order fit in what and who is most important to us? When can we say stop, THIS is what I want to do?
- Prioritize. Yes, your job is important. Your family is important. Your health is important. Your passions are important. But, I might go further to say what will sustain you. What will give you that balance? A job does provide money for food and shelter, whether for just yourself or anyone else. So, first accept that you do what you can to get what you need. Then stop. Work your ass off and breathe. Because, at the end of the day you probably have a few other things that you want to get done, even experience.
- Find something you enjoy. And become good at it. This is one key to being happy by yourself, with yourself, and for yourself. Become good at something that makes you want to work hard and find time to do this new hobby/side-hustle/art. Whether it be as simple as reading a book, to a whole new yoga practice. You will find yourself working just as hard on other priorities and love being able to come back to that. You can keep busy doing what you love. Who knew?
- Let it go. This seems to work for almost anything. As a culture, the goal is to do better, stay focused, and stay busy. Even I at times find myself thinking, “Ok, now what?” That’s when it’s time to say, “Yes!” and enjoy a good old comedy show. It actually feels great. There is always something to do, but sometimes it’s best to just hang out. Laugh with others or to yourself watching something good. If you feel you can do a little more, but still want to just relax, Pinterest! Ideas and creativity while in your sweatpants is always a great thing.
- Start with yourself. Don’t wait for anything or anyone. Eat well and get sleep. Everyone has short-comings when they become busy and mine is the latter. These two things alone help me stay focus on busy days and enjoy life how I like the other days. Staying focus helps you understand what has to be done and what you want to do, which really comes down to how you want to feel.
Nobody wants to feel too busy they can’t find time for what they love. And when you do find the time, you don’t want to feel anything other than happy and relaxed. This is for you not to forget about what’s important. In kindergarden we have nap time and snack time. As adults, we have me-time. Let’s get back to that!